How to Fix a Broken Relationship

Relationships can be hard work, and it’s often easy to lose sight of how much we need our partner, let alone how to fix the problems in our relationship when they arise. However, with some patience and the right approach, there are always ways to fix a broken relationship. Just follow these tips on how to fix a broken relationship, and you may be surprised at just how easy it can be!

Step 1: What went wrong?


When you feel like you’re struggling in your relationship, it’s important to first figure out what went wrong. Remember that everyone has flaws and things don’t always work out the way we want them to. But if you can identify at least one or two issues with your partner then there is a good chance that there are other issues too. It might be easier to start with an easy fixable problem such as improving communication skills or setting up date nights, but other problems may need professional help from a therapist or counselor.

Step 2: Put yourself in their shoes


Think about the feelings they may be experiencing that you are unaware of. Accept responsibility for your own actions. Think back and remember what happened, and figure out why it upset them so much in the first place. Understand their perspective on the situation so you can gain empathy for them (even if you don’t agree with them). Once you put yourself in their shoes, think about what they might need from you in order to feel heard and loved again.

Step 3: What do you want from this relationship?


It’s not too late for your relationship and it starts with you. Think about what you want out of the relationship; what would make you happy? Do this for yourself and then tell your partner. It may seem like a simple thing, but it will open up new avenues of communication in your relationship. It’s time to talk about where you see things going together. What are some ways that both of you can work on making it happen? And most importantly, how can both of you stop making each other feel guilty when things don’t go as planned.

Step 4: Decide how much you’re willing to compromise


One way to fix a broken relationship is to ask yourself what you’re willing to compromise on. For example, you may want more time with your friends and she wants more time for herself. You may want more space at home and she wants less. You have different dreams, but at the end of the day, you love each other very much and want things back on track. It’s time to come up with some solutions that are good for both of you!

Step 5: Have an open and honest conversation


The last step is the most important: Have an open and honest conversation. Sometimes one person will just want to talk while the other wants nothing but to avoid confrontation, but that doesn’t mean they don’t want the relationship to work. Take this as an opportunity to explore their feelings and see what you can do differently next time. Remember, this is not about getting it right or doing something wrong; it’s about learning how to better connect with your partner. Remembering these five steps could be enough to save your marriage.

Step 6: Consider how you can change your behavior


For the one person in the relationship who wants to make it work, this is often not an easy step. So ask yourself: How can I be a better partner? What can I do differently from how I’ve been acting so that things might feel different? What does the other person need from me? What do I want from them? What are my hopes for our future together as well as what are my fears? Write these down and reflect on them.
What have I done wrong?
What have they done wrong?
Where have we both gone wrong together and individually?
What can we do to change our behavior to get back on track with each other’s needs and desires (e.g., more quality time, more affection)?

Step 7: Keep the lines of communication open


Communication is one of the most important parts of any relationship. You don’t have to talk on the phone every day, but it’s still important that you check in with each other, especially if something big has happened or one of you is having a bad day. Sit down and really talk when you’re together. As long as your lines of communication are open, there’s hope for making your relationship work again. If not, it might be time to call things off. Be honest about how you feel, and try to express yourself without being mean or angry. And remember: breaking up isn’t always forever!

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