A good relationship with your significant other makes your life better in more ways than you might imagine. But maintaining that bond can be challenging, especially when you’re not feeling on the same page as your partner or when you’re unsure if they feel the same way about you that you do about them. Fortunately, knowing how to improve your relationship doesn’t have to be complicated, and you can start by using these 10 different ways to know if your girlfriend really loves you.
1) Proactively communicate with her
One of the most damaging thing a guy can do is ignore his girl. If there’s something bothering her, she’ll tell you—so why not ask her directly? If a few nights out with the boys makes her unhappy, ask what you could be doing differently. And when she has good news, tell her how excited you are for her. The more two-way communication in a relationship, the stronger it will become
. But don’t forget: open communication doesn’t mean nagging or begging for attention. A simple Hey! How was work today? is enough to show that you care about her day without being overbearing. In addition, remember that timing matters; if she just got home from work and wants to relax on the couch without talking about anything else, respect that and wait until later on in the evening when she may be more inclined to have a conversation with you.
2) Spend time with her
Relationships, like everything else in life, are work. If you want it to work out, then you need to put in a fair amount of effort. It will pay off if you spend time with her. You don’t need any special occasion or anniversary or birthday gift. Just go see her and talk and listen and love. She’ll appreciate that. After all, she is just as busy as you are (maybe even more so).
She works hard at her job while also trying to juggle schoolwork, friends, family and anything else that might come up. So make sure she knows how much she means to you by spending some quality time together every now and again—just for fun. You’ll be glad you did!
3) Use Text Messaging Appropriately
Stop and think about whether texting is really necessary when communicating with your partner. In most cases, a phone call or face-to-face conversation will be much more effective and give you a chance to connect on a deeper level. The second reason: If she’s not answering texts quickly enough, it could mean that she doesn’t want to talk, but she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you so directly. A simple I’m busy right now; let me know if you need anything else should suffice.
4) Encourage her dreams
We often underestimate how significant our actions are in our romantic partner’s lives. Whether or not they want us to, we play a role in their decision-making process, whether we realize it or not. It might be tempting to take control over every aspect of your partner’s life, but that’s only going to make her feel less independent and hurt her ability to grow as an individual. Encourage her desire for independence by giving her some space.
5) Cut out Negativity
One of two reasons for a relationship struggle is negativity. If something doesn’t go right, instead of criticizing each other, try to find a solution together. You should also work on replacing toxic words with more pleasant words. For example, say no instead of don’t. The latter sounds negative and like an order, while no sounds straightforward and clear.
6) Show her love in different ways
Many guys will say they love their girlfriend, but will only show it in one or two ways. You might send flowers once a month or leave her a sweet note in her lunchbox every now and then. However, there are many other little ways to show her that you care about more than just meeting her sexual needs. Make an effort to do any of these activities on a regular basis
7) Support her ambitions and goals
Relationships thrive when couples support each other. If your girlfriend has a dream that she wants to pursue, it’s important for you to encourage her in her efforts and offer her unwavering support. This will strengthen your bond as a couple and also help build up her self-confidence. And don’t forget that by supporting one another, you’re also setting an example for any kids who may come along later! So make sure you keep showing your partner that he or she is loved, respected and appreciated on a daily basis.
Remember: A good relationship is all about mutual respect and understanding—and never taking one another for granted. Don’t let little arguments blow out of proportion: There are bound to be times when you argue with your partner over something silly—like what movie to watch or where to go on vacation.
8) Put effort into learning about her family history
That family reunion might have been a lot of fun, but now it’s time to start putting in some real effort. This is important, because knowing where her family comes from will help you better understand where she came from, and what sorts of life lessons and beliefs were imparted upon her while growing up. So grab a pen and paper (or fire up that old typewriter) and write yourself a letter! Ask all about her parents: When did they meet? What brought them together?
9) Go out of your way to solve problems together
If there’s something bothering her, don’t just ignore it. If she wants to talk about something, give her your full attention—but not for too long. Show that you value what she has to say by taking her advice into consideration and keeping in mind how she feels.
Asking how a day went also shows that you care about her, since spending time together is important in all healthy relationships. It’s never easy to discuss problems with someone we love, but if you want to make things work, go out of your way to solve problems together. When two people are committed to working through their issues and putting forth effort toward making their relationship better, they can be happy together no matter what life throws at them.
10) Give her space when she needs it
There will be times when it’s necessary for her to take some time for herself. If she invites you out with friends, let her go and don’t worry about it too much. If there are other problems in your relationship that need addressing, don’t pressure her into doing anything she isn’t ready for. Taking things at a slower pace will ultimately lead to a stronger bond.